I love three things
the sun the moon and you
the sun for the day
the moon for the night
and you forever
This weekend I was invited to take part in and experience my second Chinese wedding during my time in China. Traditional Chinese weddings go a long way back - I was recently told that the traditions go back to 1066-1063 B.C. where they were written down as six rules in the Book of Rites for the union of a couple. These rules just seem so ridiculous in our modern world - for example that
A young couple did not have to meet and fall in love before they were married because the purpose of a union was to perpetuate the family line
This is probably also why most modern Chinese people are married in a more modern manner and throw a western style wedding. Though still keeping and following some family traditions and expectations. For example is the bride most often picked up in her family home by the groom before the wedding. The groom has to bring loads of 100 kuai notes in order to pay the brides friends and family until they will let her go.
Attending a Chinese wedding is such an experience and something I would say that you almost have to see before you believe it.
The set-up of this wedding was so sweet, romantic and more Western style than the last one I went to which was almost shocking for me to attend. I guess I was just totally unprepared for the experience and it was...very very Chinese.
When we entered the wedding premises for this wedding I could totally imagine this as an over-the-top Western wedding with wedding themed walls and decorations, chocolate, flowers, cakes everywhere. But as the "show" (yes SHOW) started it all turned very...Chinese. Not sure how to characterize it in any other way.
The host (who is a must at Chinese weddings and hired from a wedding-host company) got on the massive stage and in the next two hours he did not keep quiet for a single minute. He throw teddy bears to lucky guests, did a dance performance, hosted a 1 hour long quiz show where approximately 1/4 of the guests participated on shifts and he held the longest speeches ( very romantic once according to friend Anika who is Chinese).
During the "show" 20+ courses were served in the middle of the tables and everyone shared everything which is the Chinese style of eating (it is indeed very social to eat Chinese dinners - after I have gotten use to it I just loooove it). We had everything from lobster to duck tongues to jelly fish served.
What was also served and shared were rice wine, beer, 65% alcoholic spirits aaaand cigarettes - all-you-can-smoke cigarettes are a must at Chinese weddings!
If this wedding had not been thrown on a Sunday I am sure it would have turned in to a massive party. Maybe it did after our table had a cheers with the happy beautiful couple and most of us left.
Beautful, interesting & very Chinese!